And Then I Met This Boy... Sometimes I wonder who I am writing my blog for... Am I writing it for my friends so that they can see what sort of adventures I am up to while over here in NZ? Or maybe I'm writing it for my family so they can keep tabs on me and make sure I'm ok. But then again, maybe I'm just writing it for myself, so I can keep a log of my experiences teaching overseas, living in a different country thousands of miles from home, so that I can look back and reflect on my adventures for years to come. Or maybe I'm thinking it would be cool for my grandchildren to be able to read my stories and see my pictures and get an idea of just who their grandmother really was in her "prime"...
Who knows... but anyways... here's a random story for whoever is reading.
Several months ago I was introduced to the blog of a kiwi boy who was skateboarding around the world. If you didn't catch that post, you can find it
here. What I failed to write about was the story that ensued from there:
Upon reading this blog, I was immediately captivated by this guy's story. Not only was this guy embarking on one of the coolest missions EVER, but I could immediately tell that he was pretty amazing himself. His blog convinced me of this fact. I was so enthrallwed with his pictures and stories that I had to email him to tell him this fact. 10 mins later, I had another question, so I emailed that. Another 5 mins later, I discovered that we share the EXACT same birthday (right down to the year!) and of course, I HAD to email him about that! Meanwhile, I'm talking to my flatmates about this guy and coming to a typical "Heather conclusion" that this guy was what I considered "prime marriage material".
Much to my delight, I woke up the next morning to three responses in my inbox to each of my three different emails. Completely stoked!, I emailed him back, this time, for whatever reason, deciding that it would be fun to jokingly let this guy know about his newly appointed title of "my future husband". Fairly certain that I would never even meet this guy, I was just thinking it would be fun to capture his attention!
So no response for weeks until I get an email from him asking me where I lived again (I had mentioned I lived in Blenheim) and requesting to crash at my place sometime in November since he was planning to finish up his journey and cycle the rest of the way home from Auckland to Christchurch. Totally psyched!... I email him back stating a great big sigh of relief that he didn't think I was too psycho to associate with after my "future husband" comment, and also mentioning that I would be more than willing to take him in.
A couple of weeks later, his blog posts imply that he is seriously struggling. The mental and physical struggles he was facing at the time were, to say the least, difficult. Convinced that he needed some help cheering up, I decided to start sending him some random positive stories through email. I figured this would accomplish one of two tasks:
1) Fully and officially grant me the title of "that really scary e-stalker"
2) Bring a smile to his face and give him something to mull over while rolling out the next few more kms, eagerly awaiting the arrival of the next internet cafe where he could get the latest dose of "Heather's Deep Thoughts"
After over 20 Random Stories, he finally arrived last Friday. Thinking he would only stay one night, I was surprised to discover he planned to stay for the weekend! And what a fantastic weekend it was!
It's really hard to describe how the weekend evolved, but the words "powerful" and "inspiring" and "exciting" are just a few that come to mind. Since Rob's exhaustion level was at an all-time high, we spent the majority of the weekend pretty chilled out. This was a good reminder to me that I DO NOT chill out enough while I'm on my own. Had it been a normal weekend, I would have been out for a 20km run, cleaned the house, did some marking and other school work, and probably a bunch of other busying tasks to keep me occupied. Instead, I had a night out at the pub with my roomies on Friday, a relaxing day under the trees at White's Bay on Saturday, and another relaxing day of very little on Sunday apart from going to church in the morning and having an afternoon trip to Picton. This was all VERY good for me because I was pretty much running on no sleep having had much difficulty controlling my racing thoughts each night!






The highlight of the weekend was on Sunday when I drove Rob out to Picton to meet Peter Yarrell. I was convinced that the two should meet since I believed they would both mutually benefit from chatting with one another. It was an afternoon of "synergy" bouncing off the walls of one room, overlooking the beauty of the Marlborough sounds. The story telling was fantastic and the energy was high! We all left feeling on top of the world!

On the way home, I was caught up in the moment and decided to tell Rob my theory on why I had lost so much sleep that weekend: "It's because of you, Rob - I have not been able to sleep because you have been on my mind." His response completely caught me by surprise: "If it's any consolation, Heather, you are not the only one that has lost sleep over this". I grinned in excitement and total disbelief.
Did he really just say that???!!! I went on to tell him that the "special ones" are far and few between, but that I know one when I meet one. And he fits the criteria. He responded by saying that he came to the same conclusion about me after checking out my blog for the first time a week ago. Doing my best to contain myself (and not drive off the road!), my smile widened even further and we continued home to Blenheim making casual conversation about our afternoon with Peter and Rob's new inspiration for the book that he plans to write.
On Monday Rob headed off to Nelson to speak at an elementary school. Much to my surprise, he was back by Tuesday night and announcing that he wanted to take me on a "date" the next day. On Wednesday afternoon he spoke at my school to some of my students. It was a great talk and the girls loved him! Afterwards we debriefed on his speech and came up with some great ideas on what more he can do with it.


From there, we headed off to the Wither Hills for a walk, and to Black Creek for a yummy pizza dinner complete with Marlborough wine and live music.

By this point conversation had covered a whole assortment of topics. Yes, we agreed that this mutual feeling is overwhelming, yet pretty amazing. Oh... and yes, we are both aware of the fact that I have just put in my resignation and have (had?) plans to go home in January. And yes... we are also aware of the fact that Rob is about to experience some major changes in his life as he transitions back into Western society after years of travelling on his own. But that's ok...
We have made a connection and we are going to see one another again. For now, Rob has a job to finish. He is 3 days away from completing a two-and-a-half year epic journey!
Funny how things work out...